Be That

Charlie Fetoai believes life is about what we can give in to others. Growing up in a large family, succeeding in professional sport, and surviving a horrific sporting accident, he's shown incredible discipline and determination to overcome.

As a teenager, Karli felt she could never live up to the expectations she thought others had of her. Seeking approval, recognition, or attention from other people in order to fit in came at the expense of developing a true sense of her self.

To cope with the pain of abandonment, people can often develop maladaptive behaviours. For Emily Morrish, who tragically lost her mum to Breast Cancer when she was 13 years old, learning to break out from abandonment was a difficult journey.

Shame is the leading factor that holds people back in changing their own story. Whether it be in regards to mistakes, failures or self esteem, if we don't confront our shame, it will only perpetuate destructive behaviours. We cannot continue to hide shame or hide ourselves from shame. The key to healing is facing it, to change our story forever.

Modern culture has come to accept and even endorse sexual imagery for the purpose of selling and influencing people: causing social, psychological and relational impacts. Awareness is paramount to avoid normalising and begin transforming this culture.

Sometimes, the pain of betrayal can feel impossible to bear and can shatter trust, confidence, and hope. However, whether rebuilding ourselves or a relationship, there is always a way back to strength, wholeness and a future worth fighting for.

Infertility is an issue faced by many couples, and is an unpredictable journey often marked by stress, anxiety, grief and heartache. However, hope hides in unexpected places and on today's episode, we discover that infertility is not the end of the story.

In this topic, we explore the ways we can create and sustain a joyful life no matter our current circumstances. If you feel you're lacking excitement for life or are desperate to experience deep fulfilment each day, this topic is for you as it encourages each one of us to reflect on our life goals and intentionally cultivate a life we love for ourselves and our family.

Ever felt a calling to pursue a new direction for your life but fear, uncertainty and self-doubt held you back? Creating a new path for our lives can be daunting, it takes strength and courage. In this episode we'll explore how to overcome fear and find the courage to forge a new path. We'll discuss the challenge and joy of stepping out of our comfort zone, being vulnerable and choosing the life we believe is right for us.

Have you ever felt like you have reached the end of your capacity, that your tanks have completely run dry, and that a few nights of good sleep or a holiday won't fix it? Burnout is a state of emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion, caused by excessive and prolonged stress, and it is estimated that almost a third of our population have experienced this condition at some point in their career. Individuals in burnout experience a reduced sense of accomplishment, a loss of personal identity, an inability to cope with ongoing demands, and are at higher risk of significant mental illness and health complications. In a world that glorifies long hours and accomplishment, and with constant expectations of 'being on' in the digital space, recognising signs of burnout, and playing the 'long-game' more often, are important keys to protect our wellbeing and prevent a damaging crash and burn.

In life we are called to love one another selflessly, and give without conditions, but where do we draw the line and how do we recognise the limits of our responsibility? What do we do when we are hurting in a relationship, or if it's drawing precious energy from the other important areas of our life? Just as we set property lines around our land, we need to set mental, physical, emotional and spiritual boundaries in our life. Setting healthy boundaries can feel uncomfortable and even create guilt, but learning this skill is essential for healthy relationships, good mental health, and ultimately, our freedom and peace.

The power of mastering your mind lies in the daily choice to discipline what you allow to influence you, and what you accept as truth. The story of your life is told not only by what happens to you, but is the perspective you hold towards what happened to you, and how you view yourself because of it. When we can learn to harness our minds' potential, we have the power to transform our lives.

With postnatal depression and difficulty adjusting to motherhood being so prevalent amid the pressures of modern culture, this topic aims to normalise the common experiences (eg loneliness, inadequacy) so many women face. From initiating this conversation, it is my hope that women will adopt the approach of surrendering to this phase of life while letting go of previous expectations of themselves as they navigate mum life instead of struggling to maintain all of their pre-existing roles.

Life is not always straight forward. It can throw us a lot of curve balls and it is up to us to decide how we are going to manage those situations. Every decision we make leads us to where we are today. When things get hard, that is not the time to give up, blame or avoid. Everyone has the ability to be successful in a chosen area of life despite challenges. It is not our talents, IQ, or socioeconomic status that determines success. Having grit, that tenacity to persevere (despite the obstacles) towards a long term goal you are passionate about, is what ultimately leads to success and greater joy in life. Jo Bouris and Sarah Harriott are joined by Lize Andrews to discuss perseverance with special guests Olympic swimmer Daniel Smith and singer Tarryn Stokes.

As a fairly new dad myself (Abe Andrews) and knowing many in this season also, I have seen first hand the internal and also external struggle to know how to navigate life as a new dad. I think that it is okay to be a bit unsure how to balance it all and adjust to this new life. I think it is an important conversation to have and we should be more open about the realities of becoming a dad for the first time, I think it will mean a healthier outcome for everyone.

There are days we'd rather forget. We start off intending to be the best version of ourselves, only to find we're behaving less and less like we'd hoped. Before we know it, we're yelling at the kids, complaining about a co-worker and arguing with our spouse...Sound familiar? We explore the common struggle we all face to hold on to our true selves and our values across the different stages of our everyday and discusses 'Setting the Tone'. Discover what it can look like and how to retain it during the daily hustle and bustle.

There's a saying 'Growing old is mandatory; growing up is optional'. The transition from childhood to adulthood is inevitable. Cultures all over the world signify this coming of age with rituals and rites of passage - requiring a special feat or test be overcome, symbolising the courage and confidence needed to take on bigger challenges in life. In western culture, have we lost the art of 'growing up'? Do young people lack the guidance they need to navigate this change? The team discuss the tools needed to embrace this shift of responsibility in a healthy way.

What does it mean to be 'The Provider' in the context of family? What comes to mind? Every family functions differently and the answer will depend on individuals own experience. Whatever it might be, has fulfilling this role ever just been about who goes to work, how many hours they do or bringing home that pay cheque? Be That thinks it's worth reconsidering what it means to be 'The Provider' for a family. Beneath the surface of it all, does it requires a lot more vulnerability and availability than we've been accustomed to?

The Be That crew are hoping to shed some light on an issue that affects everyone in some way or at some point in their lives - mental health. Society has come a long way in normalising and embracing it as a genuine health issue but there still exists a stigma when it comes to culture's attitudes toward who it's supposed to affect and how to deal with it. This week's topic is Healthy Emotions, and in the studio are two amazing Aussie men who've had very different experiences with mental health, but shared similar journeys in having found the courage to reach out and talk about their emotions.

Being brave and courageous: Have you ever thought about what it really means? Particularly in a world where we may feel bombarded by opinions about what's supposed to matter to us, what success should look like and how we should live our lives. We might chase our culture's idea of success or try to meet someone else's expectations, but it can leave many of us feeling dissatisfied and unfulfilled. So, what if you stopped and asked yourself what really mattered to you, even if it challenges what's become normal or comfortable for you? And what would it really cost you to chase after it, or not?

Exploring a topic that many would agree is the foundation of family life and very often the reason people decide to have children. The bond between a parent and child draws powerfully from the very core of who we are as individuals - sometimes stretching us to the limits - but it is a heart to heart relationship unlike any other.

Today's conversation explores "Conquering the Bogus Story". Discover that we all have our own version of a Bogus Story that we give permission to dictate our life. We need to identify the ways it can impact our lives and explore how we can challenge it.

In a world that has become increasingly accessible, visible and interconnected through platforms like the internet and social media, our daily lives are now saturated with a limitless capacity to connect and put ourselves and our lives on display. We all have this inherent desire to belong and be understood for who we are. But we also have insecurities and past experiences that can cloud our perception and cause us to incorrectly judge ourselves and others. This can cause havoc in our relationships and leave us feeling vulnerable, misunderstood and invisible.